Find a Yes
If you don’t take care of your own needs you will very quickly run out of resources to meet the needs of your children.
If you don’t take care of your own needs you will very quickly run out of resources to meet the needs of your children.
The Jane and Bea Show: Episode 2
I am so excited to share episode number 2 of my podcast with you!
I love co-hosting with Jane Evans. We always have such fun together. Our podcast continues to be the place in which we get to talk about everything and anything that relates to the work she and I do. I hope that you’ll enjoy it as much as we do!
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Love and hate
Following on from last week's post, I want to shed some light on this idea of love and hate.
They are both feelings AND actions.
It is absolutely possible to both love and hate someone at the same time. In my role as parent I have known that more intensely than in any other relationship.
“Of course I love my child”.
I have heard parents say, “Of course I love my child.” And it’s true.
I believe that even an abusive or neglectful parent loves their child. The degree to which they are able to show that love depends on so many things that come together - resources, experience, trauma, understanding and so on.
Announcing my new podcast: The Jane and Bea Show
I am so excited to share that I started co-hosting a podcast about 6 months ago.
Jane Evans, a childhood trauma expert, and I release a podcast every two weeks. In it, we explore all sorts of different topics with one aim in mind - to help you raise children without the impact of your own baggage.
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Conversations from the Village: Part 3
This is the last video in our Yes Mamas video series. You are going to love this one!
Come and join me and 3 of the amazing Mamas from the Yes Mamas Village as we wax lyrical about the challenges we face and how our imperfections are helping us to grow as women, parents and all round amazing human beings.
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Conversations from the Village: Part 2
The Yes Mamas Village welcomes all women who parent, whether you are a Mama just starting out on your journey to conception, a Mama who has children from birth to adult, a Mama who looks after other people's children, Mamas who are now Grandma, Nana, Granny or Noonoo. Yes Mamas is a village that helps us raise our children and live the lives we dream of.
Today I’m introducing you to Laura, who is a home educating Mum of two girls, one of whom happens to be on the autistic spectrum. Read more
Conversations from the Village: Part 1
The women in my Yes Mamas Village are so inspirational. Today I want to introduce you Nic, who is not only a single parent to two wonderfully energetic boys, she is also an entrepreneur running two successful businesses.
Nic didn’t always see the benefit of Yes Parenting - she thought the idea was bonkers! Nic also admits that before she had children she wasn’t their biggest fan. Listen to her as she talks about how her experience in the Yes Mamas Village has turned her life around, led her to relish the time she has with her own kids and also turned her into a bit of a child magnet at the playground!
The biggest problem with your child’s behaviour might actually be your own expectations
The biggest problem with your child's behaviour might actually be your own expectations.
This might be a hard pill to swallow. It is common, perhaps normal, to have high expectations of our children - we want them to fulfil their potential and experience the best that life has to offer them. In a world where we have a vast array of information telling us what our child ‘should’ be able to do by a certain age, and what the age-appropriate milestones are, it’s not surprising that we forget to listen to the child right in front of us.
Just because your child can do something doesn't mean they can always do it, or always want to do it.
When to say yes and when to say no
If you’re new to Yes Parenting, it can be quite challenging to know when to say Yes and when to say No. If you’re a member of Discovering Yes (my free Facebook group) you’re likely already familiar with my posts that aim to help you begin to integrate the process of finding a Yes for everybody. Remember, when we talk about finding a Yes, we’re not looking for a Yes solely for our kids - we’re looking for a Yes for us as well.
When it comes to finding a Yes for everyone, we begin by looking at needs. Then it’s a Yes to interests and preferences and finally it’s a Yes to desires.
