Saying Yes to an idea does not mean you then have to go ahead and fulfill said idea. It means opening up to what that idea might offer. When we say Yes, and we open up, it is incredible what magic is able to unfold.
Isn't it interesting how quickly we criticise ourselves and our children? Sometimes it can be very subtle but it's there - any time we see a behaviour or a quality that is 'less than' desirable from our perspective.
CHOOSE COMPASSION, KINDNESS, ACCEPTANCE AND UNDERSTANDING!
When we're at the point of punishment we have chosen to let our irritation, disappointment, anger or sadness take over. It is almost impossible to choose Punishment if we are in a place of compassion, kindness, acceptance and understanding.
LET YOUR DESIRE TO PUNISH BE AN INVITATION TO HEAL
When we start thinking about threatening consequences, dishing out punishment or even giving rewards, we are putting ourselves in a position of power *over* our children.
CHECK IN WITH YOUR INNER CHILD!
I've recently connected lots of dots and realised that our Inner Child is in the driving seat for much of our parenting.
• Every time you lean towards punishment I believe it's your Inner Child calling the shots.
• Noticing that you're turning into your own Mother? Yep, your Inner Child again.
Do you want to parent without using this approach?
Fear and Control are at the root of every single punishment, reward, consequence or bribe that have ever been used in parenting.