LET YOUR DESIRE TO PUNISH BE AN INVITATION TO HEAL
When we start thinking about threatening consequences, dishing out punishment or even giving rewards, we are putting ourselves in a position of power *over* our children.
CHECK IN WITH YOUR INNER CHILD!
I've recently connected lots of dots and realised that our Inner Child is in the driving seat for much of our parenting.
• Every time you lean towards punishment I believe it's your Inner Child calling the shots.
• Noticing that you're turning into your own Mother? Yep, your Inner Child again.
FEAR AND CONTROL ARE NOBODY'S FRIEND!
Do you want to parent without using this approach?
Fear and Control are at the root of every single punishment, reward, consequence or bribe that have ever been used in parenting.
How you perceive things and how your child perceives things are so very different. Your child really is doing their best - even when their behaviour is unwanted, they are trying their best to make their world right.
A member of Yes Parenting For Happy Families, my awesome membership group, asked me for some vegetarian breakfast ideas this week. Since I just so happen to be the Queen of breakfasts, I had lots of ideas to share with her. I thought I'd share them here with you as well. If you like them, please feel free to share them!!!
When and why did parenting become a process of trying to teach our children how to be a good human being?
Part of you longs to know how to say Yes to your child or grandchild. I know this because I doubt you'd be here otherwise. The thing is, depending on how much of your life you've spent in the habit of responding with No, you might find it a tricky change to make.
So you've passed the stage where it's the simple explanation of the birds and the bees. "Where do babies come from?" seems like a walk in the park compared to the sexual landscape that is rapidly coming into view as your child approaches their teens. The worst thing you can do is stick your head in the sand and hope someone else helps then out with all they need to know.
I'm going to share with you what really works with your kids and how to go about having these conversations without awkwardness and embarrassment.
This morning I drove out to the middle of nowhere, with my dog Coco, to reach a high point of land to best see the sunrise. I wanted to welcome the sun as it greeted me on the other side of the longest night of the year.
Focusing on saying 'Yes' more than 'No' does not mean that boundaries lack importance or presence. It means a shift in how we approach boundaries.
