CHOOSE COMPASSION, KINDNESS, ACCEPTANCE AND UNDERSTANDING!
When we’re at the point of punishment we have chosen to let our irritation, disappointment, anger or sadness take over. It is almost impossible to choose Punishment if we are in a place of compassion, kindness, acceptance and understanding.
There’s an old adage that says you have to be cruel to be kind. What a load of rubbish. Cruelty is cruelty. Kindness is kindness.
When we begin to explore how to parent without punishment we start to notice just how often we want to punish in some way. Punishment can be as subtle as banning screens for 20 minutes or withholding a treat at a cafe due to some behaviour in the playground. It may even be promising a treat in exchange for your child doing something they don’t want to do.
I’d encourage you to give yourself permission to take a step back and observe yourself when you notice yourself moving towards punishment.
• Notice what you are feeling and why.
• Take a deep breath
• Begin to look at your child with compassion and kindness.
• Begin to consider a different perspective through understanding and acceptance.
When we do this we often find that our desire to punish melts away and instead we move towards connection with our child.
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