This has been one of the biggest challenges for me as a parent. And something I continue to be mindful of even though I have now made many changes to my lifestyle to reduce busyness.
It is so easy to be busy. Often busy being busy which is rarely productive.
I remember once my son started counting “1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and…” in response to me saying to him “In a minute…”. I realised then just how much my time and attention meant to my boys, and just how often I got caught up in being busy and thinking that whatever I was doing was more important than them.
So much of this is about habit. Several habits thrown together that lead us to feel busy when we’ve generally been the ones to create that busyness.
My experience is you can’t change this overnight. The first step is to notice when being busy is taking you away from your children. Once you notice you can start making small changes. It might be how you plan your time, how you respond to your child’s request to connect, using a slow cooker instead of cooking food at tea time.
We live in a culture that celebrates busyness. When you step back from being busy you go against the grain and that isn’t always comfortable. Go gently with yourself with compassion and kindness. You can’t get this wrong.
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