Letting go of control is one of the hardest things I’ve had to do in my journey to Yes Parenting.
Raising a human is an epic role and carries significant responsibility. It’s understandable we want to do everything in our power to get it right.
But when we control our children then we are no longer responding to them with understanding, compassion and kindness. We hurt our relationship with them and that hurts us too.
I still seek to control others when I feel out of control in an area of my own life. The difference, now, is that I am aware of it. I can usually catch the behaviour before I act on it.
When I notice after I’ve acted on it, I am better equipped to say “I’m sorry. I’m being controlling. It’s because I feel worried/helpless/powerless in [fill in the blank].”
This has been me this week as I prepare to fly to Los Angeles for work. There is so much outside of my control that I have noticed this desire to control others rise up in me.
And I have loved myself anyway. Just as I am.
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