What I began to realise is that the silence isn’t actually silent and I was rarely in complete solitude. The slowness was definitely slow!
The Yes Mamas Village welcomes all women who parent, whether you are a Mama just starting out on your journey to conception, a Mama who has children from birth to adult, a Mama who looks after other people's children, Mamas who are now Grandma, Nana, Granny or Noonoo. Yes Mamas is a village that helps us raise our children and live the lives we dream of.
The women in my Yes Mamas Village are so inspirational. Today I want to introduce you Nic, who is not only a single parent to two wonderfully energetic boys, she is also an entrepreneur running two successful businesses.
Nic didn’t always see the benefit of Yes Parenting - she thought the idea was bonkers! Nic also admits that before she had children she wasn’t their biggest fan. Listen to her as she talks about how her experience in the Yes Mamas Village has turned her life around, led her to relish the time she has with her own kids and also turned her into a bit of a child magnet at the playground!
These magnificent Mamas always leave me inspired and with a heart full of joy that the Yes Mamas Village is providing women all over the world with a place of community, safety, growth, healing and empowerment.
The biggest problem with your child's behaviour might actually be your own expectations.
This might be a hard pill to swallow. It is common, perhaps normal, to have high expectations of our children - we want them to fulfil their potential and experience the best that life has to offer them. In a world where we have a vast array of information telling us what our child ‘should’ be able to do by a certain age, and what the age-appropriate milestones are, it’s not surprising that we forget to listen to the child right in front of us.
Just because your child can do something doesn't mean they can always do it, or always want to do it.
If you’re new to Yes Parenting, it can be quite challenging to know when to say Yes and when to say No. If you’re a member of Discovering Yes (my free Facebook group) you’re likely already familiar with my posts that aim to help you begin to integrate the process of finding a Yes for everybody. Remember, when we talk about finding a Yes, we’re not looking for a Yes solely for our kids - we’re looking for a Yes for us as well.
When it comes to finding a Yes for everyone, we begin by looking at needs. Then it’s a Yes to interests and preferences and finally it’s a Yes to desires.
Just in case no one has told you today, I want you to know that you are enough, exactly as you are.
We have such high expectations of ourselves. We have such high expectations of our children. We might have high expectations of others. Combining these expectations with the perpetual use of the word “should”, we find ourselves further and further away from the truth that we are enough, that our children are enough. Where you are, today, in this moment is enough.
Have you ever heard the saying, “What you resist, persists”? This is one of those lessons that the Universe brings me back to time and time again.
I find that when I am most in need of something for my own development, growth, healing, etc., I will, more often than not, resist it. This brings us back to “what we resist, persists”. I find often that the things we need most are also the things that we resist most.
A really important part of Yes Parenting is our willingness and ability to say Yes or to respond with a Yes to our children's desires (and our own desires) as much as we can or as much as possible.
There are, of course, natural limits that will prevent us from being able to say a full Yes. These could be money, time, geographical location, practicalities of science, etc. However, there are still many ways for us to find playful, exploratory, imaginative and wonderfully expansive ways to say Yes to desires within these limits.